One man's quest for finding love through online dating sites had produced 5 precious tips. Our Love & Relationship expert Compassionate Kate and her client Marty have agreed to share their tips after a year's experience regarding Marty's online dating experience. An experience that ended with a very happy ending, named Kristen.
1) Be your true self
A lot of people, especially in online dating, try to be someone they're really not in order to impress the other person. This explains why so many people have frustrating first dates and get really fed up with online dating.You're one person on the phone or online, and then a completely different person face-to-face. Maintaining consistency throughout the process is key. Don't change yourself for the benefit of someone else.
2) Have standards
Know what you want, and especially what you don't want. I can't tell you how many profiles I went through, especially on OKCupid, where the girl sounded perfect for me, and then I read that she had a kid already. You have to draw the line somewhere. If you start making exceptions all over the place, you won't be truly happy.I would stress that's important to write all the things down that someone wants. This is where it may sound a lot like The Law of Attraction. Make lists, make multiple lists, even if they may seem silly. Don't worry about how it will happen, just get it on paper.
3) Dating is a process
Some people have to go through a ton of bad dates and maybe even a few crappy relationships to truly get what they want. Understanding that it is a process will help. While many times I hated it too. I knew that it was all refining me and getting me ready for my WIW. Don't get hung up right away on one person being your "one".Look for them to make moves towards you. If someone rejects you quickly, try not to take it personally. Always remember that each person you date and every person you encounter ideally sets you up for that true happiness, as long as you believe it.
4) Know That You Deserve Amazing Love
A lot of people wind up disqualifying themselves for something amazing because they're too wound up in the negativity of their past. Let it go. Everyone has at least one person (and some have more) where everything clicks. I'm living proof of it :-)Don’t disqualify yourself because of what someone else thinks of you. Imagine yourself in that ideal relationship. How happy does it make you feel? How much does it improve your life? Focus on those feelings and you'll feel the road to your one start to get shorter in time.
5) Don't Settle
They'll find someone online who likes them back enough to continue things and they'll sort of back into a relationship and then maybe back into a marriage. Settling is the worst thing you can do because in time you will hate yourself for it.Your ideal relationship should consist of a shared vision, something you both bring to the table. If you can't hear your own voice in the relationship, you're settling. Don't settle, even if it means you have to keep looking for love.
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